Lishmah: The Secret to Intimacy with the World

What if the deepest intimacy with life didn’t come from trying harder, achieving more, or fixing yourself? What if it came from simply doing something for its own sake?

The ancient Hebrew concept of lishmah offers this profound insight: when we act purely “for its own sake,” without ulterior motives, we unlock a doorway to true connection—not just with the task or activity, but with life itself. This isn’t about adding one more self-help practice to your list. It’s about stepping into a radically different relationship with everything you do.

Let’s explore how living lishmah can transform the way you connect with the world.

What is Lishmah?

Lishmah means engaging in an activity purely for the joy and authenticity of doing it. In Jewish mystical thought, it’s often linked to acts of learning, prayer, or good deeds, performed not for reward, recognition, or self-improvement, but simply for their intrinsic value.

At its heart, lishmah is about presence. It’s about stepping away from the transactional mindset—What will I get out of this?—and into the sacred flow of simply being with what is.

How the World Teaches Us the Opposite

Modern culture is obsessed with outcomes. We measure our worth by how much we achieve, the recognition we gain, or the results we produce. Even our hobbies are often tainted by this mindset: learning a language to boost a résumé, exercising to look good, meditating to manage stress.

But this obsession with outcomes creates a subtle disconnection. When we act only to achieve, we reduce life to a series of means to an end, missing the richness of the moment itself.

Lishmah in Practice: A Path to Intimacy

When we approach life through the lens of lishmah, our relationship with the world shifts. Instead of striving to control or improve, we open ourselves to intimacy—a felt sense of being deeply connected to the moment, the action, and the web of life around us.

Here’s how you can start:

1. Choose One Activity to Practice Lishmah

Pick something simple, like washing dishes, folding laundry, or watering plants. Commit to doing it for its own sake—not for productivity, self-improvement, or any external result.

As you engage, notice when your mind starts seeking outcomes. Gently bring yourself back to the pure enjoyment of the act.

2. Reframe Everyday Actions

Ask yourself: What would this feel like if I did it without any expectation of result?
For example, what if you cooked a meal not to impress or nourish but simply for the love of cooking? What if you walked barefoot in the grass, not to relax or ground yourself, but for the simple pleasure of feeling the earth beneath your feet?

3. Notice the Shift in Energy

When you act lishmah, you may notice a subtle shift. There’s an ease, a fullness, even a sacredness. By letting go of “what’s next,” you fall into the intimacy of “what’s now.”

Why Lishmah Matters for Intimacy with Life

When we engage life lishmah, we stop grasping and start receiving. This openness allows us to experience the world—not as something to conquer, but as something to love. It’s here that intimacy arises: in the space where we no longer need life to give us something and can instead meet it exactly as it is.

This practice transforms not only our relationship with tasks but also with people, nature, and even ourselves. Lishmah teaches us that intimacy isn’t found in effort but in surrender.

Your Next Step: Begin Small

The beauty of lishmah is that you don’t need to overhaul your life to begin. Start small. Choose one thing today to do for its own sake. Notice the difference. And as you practice, watch how the ancient wisdom of lishmah opens your heart to the quiet, radiant intimacy that has always been here, waiting for you.

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