Tom Ronen Goddard, PhD, CCEP
Transformation that
spans the decades,
spans lineages,
spans modalities.
I’ve been blessed with an amazing array of opportunities to study in diverse fields, often under world-class teachers. They all weave together to create an integral approach.
I haven’t invented anything other than the unique configuration of learnings that have come my way. In my twenties, a colleague called me “the master of synthesis.” While I’m a bit shy of the “master” title, I will go with “student of synthesis.”
A Life of Serial Transformations
The primary reason that I am a champion of transformation is that at the heart of my life’s process have been a series of profound transformations.
From Head to Body
For the first three decades or so of my life, my attention was primarily on my head. Both as a student and as a professional, how my brain performed was my chief interest. However, in my 30s and into my 40s, I encountered for the first time experiential training (LifeSpring) and psycho-spiritual somatic work (Shalom Mountain). The net effect of these experiences was a profound shift in my attention and my understanding from the wisdom of my head to the wisdom of my body. This was a game-changer. This shift of focus from head to body prepared me for the transformation …
From Slippery to Authentic
For the first half-century of my life, my childhood yearning to be loved (coupled with a profound insecurity about the notion that I was lovable) created a man who struggled with honesty. While I was aware of some of that dishonesty, that turned out to be the tip of the iceberg. I was unconsciously shaping who I was for each person I encountered, not exactly lying but certainly not being authentic. In the midst of a Shalom retreat, I had a sudden flash of awareness that awoke me to the entire mechanism, which I described in that moment as “slippery”. I devoted the next part of my life to purging that from myself, moving toward radical honesty and authenticity. In that process, I discovered a sense of freedom I had never encountered. This then laid the ground work for the next transformation …
From pre-packaged spirituality to authentic unique path
I’ve had a deep interest in finding my spiritual path since I was eleven, when I first bumped up against some of the more troubling aspects of the fundamentalist form of Christianity. I grappled to stay within the faith in which I was raised, the theological problems I encountered as a child — primarily the doctrine that doomed non-Christians to eternal suffering — were not easily dismissed. I then found a path that posed no such issues — Zen Buddhism. I began to take up Zen practices, and sustained and, in my late-40s, doubled down by studying at a Zen monastery for 5 years. This served me quite well — right up until the previously mentioned transformation to authenticity overtook me, and then I found myself dissatisfied. This shifted when I encountered Ken Wilber’s vision of Integral Theory and the Unique Self teachings of Marc Gafni. This prompted a deep shift to discover — rather, co-create — my unique spiritual path that is profoundly authentic and evolutionary, meeting my need for connection to the All for which I had been searching my entire life.
From mere self-care to Outrageous Self-Love
When I hit 65, in the midst of a traumatic development in my personal life, I decided that my only approach to navigating that painful passage was to commit to exquisite self-care. This involved a full commitment to plant-based food, daily exercise, and giving up my evening cocktail. I was once told by a friend and health coach that “100 percent is much easier than 99 percent.” I had ignored that advice for years, until this transformation. I committed 100 percent to this new lifestyle, and haven’t looked back. I lost every bit of the weight I had put on and never lost since I was 25, and haven’t felt this good since my youth. My new lifestyle — inspired by my teacher Jerry Jud’s invitation to feel good every day — is easy to sustain and never feels like sacrifice. This is what it feels like to have become my own Beloved.
I now live, work, and play in Hillsborough, North Carolina, in the northwest portion of the Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill metropolitan area.
Influences
Here are a few of the many influences of my life, all of which inform my work with my clients:
Training and Experience
Certified Core Energetics Practitioner
PhD and MA in Psychology
(with an emphasis on behavior in organizations and individual decision-making)
Law Degree
Shalom Mountain Retreat Leadership
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction
Spiritual Traditions
Christian Mysticism
Buddhism
Tantra
Kashmir Shaivism
Sufiism
Hinduism
Taoism
Nature Mysticism
Teachers and Academic Influences
Ken Wilber, Marc Gafni, Gerald J Jud and many other teachers at Shalom Mountain, Joe Weston, Vyana Bergen, and many others.