Argue less while still being heard

Do you have too many arguments in your life? I would say most of us do. So I want to give you a quick little tip on how not to have arguments:

Don't say anything that is arguable.

How can you do that in a conversation with, let's say, your partner or your teenage son? How can you avoid saying things that are arguable? Two quick little tips:

• First of all, agree upon the facts in question. And if you can't agree upon the facts in question, then they may not be facts. They may just be your perception of the facts. So it requires a bit of humility. So when you're in a conversation with your partner, make sure you're talking about the same set of facts before you go any further.

• And then once you have a set of facts that you agree on, speak only about your experience. Speak only about your experience because your experience is inarguable. Don't draw conclusions about their experience or who they are or what's going on in their head.

  So two steps. Speak only agreed upon facts and share only your experience.

  You still get to be heard, but there’s nothing to argue about!