What’s Your Story? Why the Narratives We Tell Matter More Than Ever

Introduction

Hey there, let me ask you something: What’s your story?

Ever been asked that as an icebreaker or in a meaningful conversation? It’s such a simple question, yet it invites something profound—a glimpse into who we are and how we see the world.

But here’s the thing: our stories aren’t just what we share in conversation. We are always telling stories, whether we realize it or not. From the narratives running through our minds about ourselves to the ways we explain the world around us to others, storytelling is woven into the fabric of being human.

So, what’s your story? And, more importantly, how conscious are you of it?

The Stories We Tell

Every day, we tell ourselves stories.

• “I’m not good enough for that job.”

• “The world is just unfair.”

• “I can do this if I try harder.”

These aren’t just idle thoughts. They shape how we act, how we see the world, and how we relate to others. Whether you’re a CFO crafting a story about your company’s finances, a yoga teacher telling a story about the body’s energy, or just figuring out your place in the world—your story matters.

But here’s the catch: Not all stories are created equal.

What Makes a “Better” Story?

Some stories serve us better than others. A good story doesn’t have to be perfectly realistic (because, let’s be honest, defining “real” is tricky). But a good story should:

1. Map to Experience:
   A story that resonates with reality, that aligns with what we know and experience, is more powerful than one that doesn’t. For example, claiming you have “green horns” on your head might make for an entertaining metaphor, but it won’t help you navigate your day-to-day life.

2. Be Inclusive and Expansive:
   The best stories grow with us. They evolve to include new perspectives and discoveries, just like humanity’s story has expanded through science, philosophy, and art. Think of Galileo challenging the old, Earth-centered view of the cosmos. By embracing a bigger story, society grew in understanding.

3. Be Grounded in Values:
   A story built on strong values is more than just a narrative—it’s a foundation. Whether it’s personal integrity, love, curiosity, or resilience, values give your story a purpose and direction.

4. Empower You:
   If two stories seem equally valid, why not choose the one that empowers you? The story that inspires action, possibility, and growth will always serve you better than one that limits or confines you.

The Subconscious Author

Here’s a twist: you’re not the sole author of your story.

A lot of the stories shaping your life are written by your subconscious mind and even your body. They’re co-authors in this grand narrative you’re living. Your beliefs, fears, and even physical sensations can influence the plot in ways you might not realize.

That’s why practices like shadow work (exploring the unconscious parts of ourselves) and body work (reconnecting with physical sensations and energy) are so powerful. They bring the hidden parts of our story into the light, giving us more freedom and flexibility in how we write the next chapter.

Why This Matters

Your story isn’t just about you—it’s about the world you create.

When we tell better stories, we live better lives. We connect more deeply with others. We create space for new possibilities.

So, take a moment to reflect:

• What story are you telling yourself about who you are?

• What story are you telling others about the world?

• How might you revise those stories to be more empowering, inclusive, or values-driven?

Final Thought

Each of us is a storyteller, consciously or not. The beauty is that we have the power to revise, adapt, and expand our narratives. By becoming more aware of the stories we tell, we can craft lives that are not only more aligned with reality but also filled with possibility, connection, and purpose.

So, I’ll ask again: What’s your story?

I’d love to hear it.